The bitch is back--Elton might have been on to something

According to the oxford dictionary a Bitch is defined as:noun

• 1a female dog, wolf, fox, or otter.

• 2 informal a spiteful or unpleasant woman.
• black slang a woman (used in a non-derogatory sense).
• a person who is completely subservient to another.

• 3 (a bitch) informal a difficult or unpleasant situation or thing:working the night shift is a bitch

• 4 informal a complaint:my big bitch is that there’s nothing new here
  
  I have frequently been described as a bitch as I am sure many women of my age and profession have but in my case it has become something more. Indeed it has on many occasions gotten me into trouble. I have very few filters between my brain and mouth; some would say I have no filters! and I am fearless in defending what I believe in, whether it be a principle or a friend, I never give up the fight. I used to think that this was simply open, honest communication, until I learned that you can only engage in open, honest communication with people who actually took the open, honest communication course. all others simply see you as an insulting, argumentative bitch!as you can imagine, this has led to many conflicts in my life. Indeed, I have come close to losing a job, family and friends due to my vehement defence of something I believe is right or fighting for what I think should happen. Max is not the male equivalent of "a bitch" and that has frequently led to the inevitable question, "what is a nice guy like that doing with a BITCH like her!" Many can shake their heads and say, no I am sure that isn't so, but it is! I have even been asked to my face over the last 35 years and even by members of my own family. So knowing all this and knowing that life would be so much easier not to be a bitch, one might question that if I am aware of this, why would I not do everything in my power to change? After all, life is quite simple and pleasant for the non-bitches of the world. the answer is actually quite simple; all the things that go into making me a bitch are also the things that have allowed me to be mother of a child with special needs: my quick wit, loud voice and tenacious ability to fight for what I believe in were the tools I need for the job of being a mother to a child with cerebral palsy.it is not for the faint of heart. things that come natural for other parents, are a continual battle for those of us who have had the role thrust upon us. Inclusion, accessibility, understanding and accommodation, all have to be fought for, and it is not a war for the faint of heart or the quiet of spirit. The path of least resistance has no place in raising a disabled child and if you were not a bitch when you started the journey, I can almost guarantee that you will be by the end of it. if your child is to receive the care, attention and education that they deserve, you will have to fight for it; sometimes, over and over again. all of the things that got me into trouble in my "other" life, were the very tools that I required to acquire all that Connor deserved. The school system and health care system do not cater well to those who just "go along". it truly is the squeaky wheel that gets the grease. If someone is willing to settle for the bare minimum; that is what they will receive. Bitches never settle. Connor has told me on several occasions that EA's, teachers, attendants and even his friends are "terrified" of me. I find that somewhat hard to believe but I do think that they have learned to be wary of me and know that I am a she-wolf protecting her cub if I believe that Connor has not been treated as fairly as the rest. as a result, in nursery school, grade school, high school and university, Connor has always achieved everything that he could.

  

  Perhaps that is where the application of the word towards women came about in the first place. Men realised that you do not mess with a woman protecting her babe. The problem is that a child with special needs requires so much more protection, in so many different ways and for so much longer. And so, I go on being the bitch. the one who speaks her mind and fights for what she believes in, even if no one is listening at that moment, I know that if my bitch-skills are needed to fight the good fight they have been honed to perfection. it may not, on the surface, be something that I should crow about. But, it is that survival technique that has gotten us this far and will take us even farther. Therefore, I remain "the bitch" and darn proud of it!